I’m currently studying with Tara Mohr on her Playing Big Facilitators Course, delving deep into the ideas outlined in her excellent bestseller and learning how to incorporate this into my own coaching practice. I am due to complete this in May 2021 and am already starting to use the principles and practices in my own life and with my clients with fantastic results.
There is a LOT to get your head around but it’s like reading a book about yourself. Sure, some things may resonate more loudly than others but I can honestly say that every page holds some nugget that I can totally identify with.
You can read all about Tara’s journey on her website and also in her book of course. But in essence, she was coaching amazing women and wondered why they were not in leadership positions in their workplaces or industry sectors. Why were all these talented, experienced and skilled women not shaping the future? Research followed and the conclusions form the book and the basis of the training. Women traditionally fall back on any number of reasons for NOT standing out, for NOT stepping up, for NOT speaking out and staying invisible. For NOT Playing Big.
In the training we unpick these reasons one by one, using ourselves as the guinea pigs. Of course there is a wonderful community of delegates around the globe and we come together and connect and coach each other too! It is transformational.
Some of the things I took to straight away was working on my Inner Critic and also meeting my Inner Mentor. I have created a character for my IC and with diligent observation I am able to recognise her voice and motivation to keep me safe. I’ve also met my Inner Mentor and am delighted to report that she looks a lot like Judi Dench…
Let me ask you, how many of these do you recognise?
- I’m not ready, I need more training
- I’m not ready, I need another qualification
- I need to ask for advice
- I need a mentor
- I need to do more research
- I need to poll my friends
- I need to work harder
- I need to improve myself
- I have to pay my dues/serve my time
- I use words like ‘just’, ‘actually’, ‘kind of’, ‘almost’, ‘sorry’, ‘but’ A LOT
- I find criticism devastating and it can take ages to recover
- I find praise validating and without it I feel lost and unworthy
Spooky isn’t it? And that isn’t even all!
It’s such a fascinating course and I’m currently in the middle of the Communicating with Power section, I can’t wait to share it with you. I don’t want to reveal too much here outside of the coaching process, as it won’t make sense in only a blog post or a paragraph. Suffice to say, there is plenty of work to do on myself and I recognise the struggle in all my clients too. It makes me even more determined to encourage girls and women to speak up, stand out, be seen and heard!